Teaching Kids About Money – A Personal Journey

Teaching Kids About Money – A Personal Journey

I read somewhere recently that kids today graduate able to do calculus, but helpless with a check book. That was me when I graduated from university. My first job paid monthly, and the first two weeks after payday, I lived like a queen. But the last two weeks… I vividly remember only having ketchup in the fridge with three days to go.

No one – not my parents, not my school, not my friends – had systematically taught me how to manage money. Sure, I’d been exposed to the idea of a budget, but I’d never seen one in use. I’d heard credit cards were bad, but everyone I knew had one and used it regularly. On the outside, everyone looked fine, including me. But on the inside – ketchup. Eventually, I said to myself, “You’re a college graduate. Figure it out.” I bought my first financial self-help book. Then another, then another, until I sorted myself out.

Eventually I had kids.  I’m desperate to help teach them what they need to know to avoid poverty because, ultimately, when we talk about financial freedom, there’s a reality in the word ‘freedom’.

They’re still young, but the same issues started playing out for them as for me. Their school doesn’t seem to have a class on home economics, or if it does, why is my daughter trying to spend all of her allowance on Robux?

This blog shares the concepts that I think are important to teach, and how it’s going with my own kids. What worked for me, what didn’t work – and if you have suggestions of your own, please for the love of humanity, comment and help me! 🙂

Here are the first key concepts I tried to get across to my kids, classroom style (don’t try classroom style, it doesn’t work unless you’re an actual teacher, I discovered):

  1. Having money is equivalent to freedom. You don’t need a lot. In fact, the more modestly you live, the easier it is to be ‘financially free’. (I wanted to delve into passive income exceeding lifestyle, but their eyes were already glazing over, so I decided to just go to point two).
  2. Stay out of debt, or if you get into debt, do it for something where the payoff exceeds the debt. This means, regardless of what your friends are doing, don’t use a credit card to buy coffee. Do use debt to finance education – if you’ll actually use that education in a manner that increases your income – or things that build equity (like buying a house, which you may as well do if you need a place to live).
  3. Where you end up on the wealth spectrum is really linked to only four variables – where you start, how much income you make, how much time you have to make it, and how much you lose along the way.  None of these variables are completely out of your control, and they’re happening whether you control them or not. (This turned into an argument – I told them to go do some research and prove me wrong, but so far they haven’t taken up the challenge).
  4. People who achieve huge amounts of wealth are either born into it or set up systems that exceed their personal ability to gather wealth (see things like investing in passive income or starting a business where they own the wealth generated by others). That is, working for a living will only get you so far.
  5. There’s a huge gap between what people think they do, and what they actually do. Our brains are wired against our making wise decisions for the future, even when we know what we ought to be doing. Sometimes the best way to manage money is to beat your worst psychological habits at their own game.
  6. It’s okay to want to be wealthy enough to be financially free, but there comes a time when wealth accumulation becomes amoral. We as humans are part of a collective, and we have a duty to one another to care for our society as much as our personal circumstances allows. This is why the rich should pay more taxes, and why I am not setting up a dynasty where my kids can fantasize about me dropping dead at Christmas (at this point, the conversation turned humorously morbid and we had to stop).

Okay, these are all important lessons, but to be honest, just coming out and saying ‘hey, these are the lessons I want you to learn’ didn’t really get the level of engagement that I was hoping for. To wit, it ended with “So, wait – Mom, if you die, will I be a millionaire?” Noooooooooo.

So how do you do it? I’m still working on that myself, but here are a few things I tried (with a bit of research). Some are more successful than others, but this is what made it into my parenting arsenal:

  1. Role modelling – they may not listen to a word I say, but apparently my kids are actually watching what I do, for better or worse. Knowing this, I’ve made a deliberate effort to handle my finances transparently. On Saturdays, when I’m sitting down to do the bills, I let them know that’s what I’m working on, and I talk in front of them with my partner about what bills are being paid, what bills I know are coming and am saving for, etc. I’ve even asked my kids to show me their budgets in Google sheets too, like as if it’s just natural that they’d start budgeting their allowance, and taught them how to improve their budgets by suggesting savings goals and investment pools.
  2. Be informed – look out yourself for good sources on the topic. I love reading about financial management, and I share those resources with my kids (er, broken down into bite sized tidbits). I try to engage them in conversations about what I’ve learned by asking them what they think and actively listen to the responses. I’ve even tried a ‘would you rather do X or Y’ questions during car rides to see what my kids would say. It’s interesting to hear them debate why they’d choose $100 today rather than $10 for ten weeks, then explaining present value. (Tip: it worked best for me once I got the hang of letting them answer first, and listen to their answers fully before trying to teach anything)
  3. Allowance – The kids have a set of chores they earn money for doing, BUT we are careful that it’s only a subset of the work that they do around the house. We’re trying to balance the idea that they get money for directed effort, but they’re still responsible to contribute to the household. This is a continuous adjustment, and I’m not certain we’ve nailed it – please comment and let me know what works best for you in this area! As it is, we aimed for an amount that isn’t so low that they can’t afford anything, but isn’t so high that they don’t need to save.
  4. Rewards – I, uh, bribe them to do what I want to see. Did they save according to their budget? I might match their savings or give them a bonus for hitting a target. (Once, this backfired when I promised to match their savings for a trip to Singapore and somehow they managed to save over $300… so be prepared for surprises!)
  5. Independence – from a very young age, I would get my kids to buy things themselves. We’d go to the register together, but I’d give them the money. They’d complete the transaction themselves, and I’d help them count the change. I also set up joint bank accounts with them and am in the process (around age 10) of teaching them how to use internet banking, savings accounts, trade accounts, and debit cards.
  6. Reinforcing values – my personal favourite wealth management book is The Richest Man in Babylon by George S Clayton written in the 1920s because it taught me to separate wants from needs (a man’s capacity for desire is as big as his imagination, for example), and what worked is how it worked parables into everyday situations. I often wriggle little comments into our conversations about the importance of charity, managing one’s own emotions, and how what you focus on grows.

I’m not certain how this journey will turn out yet, but I’m well on my way for better or worse. I’d love to hear thoughts and things other parents have attempted. Heck, if you disagree with me, please feel free to comment below.  🙂

Elizabeth Blythe

Senior Consultant, IQ Group.




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